Dirty John Part 1: The Real Thing

Order on-line Is she “crazymaking? As the authors of Stop Walking on Eggshells: You might want to think about whether this fits your relationship–and do something about it. We hear that domestic violence is about power and control–specifically, that it’s a form of oppression of women. Classifying offenses against women as “hate crimes” is a dangerous political game in the Jan. But, as Paul and Randi point out, 75 percent of those diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder are women. And 75 percent of those with BPD have been physically or sexually abused. This lends credence to the idea that domestic violence is a “dance” between two people, not simply patriarchal oppression of women by men, as so many domestic violence Web sites and programs maintain. Here’s a checklist from Stop Walking on Eggshells:

The Myths and Realities of Dating With Borderline Personality Disorder

New here, my story BPD. Hello everyone, I hope to read a lot more and contribute when I get some time. I’ve had a glance around and it looks like there’s a lot of support and great advice here. My story is that I’m separated from my BPD girlfriend. It’s been 7 months, and we recently reconnected. It was previously my decision to leave though, as I’m sure others can appreciate, at the time it felt hopeless, and I felt that was the only solution.

Sep 18,  · This thread isn’t long enough for all the stories I have. I need to drop some knowledge on you. BPD or similar disorders are toxic and untreatable, assuming they would even agree to seek.

Most people assume that there must be something wrong with men who stay in relationships with women who have traits of borderline personality disorder, men who know the right move is to leave but who find themselves unable to let go. In Part 1 we explored the personality type associated with traits of borderline personality disorder, or BPD, and the unusual pattern of Dr. Hyde transformation that so many of these women go through when they enter a romantic relationship.

In order to understand the dynamic of this couple, we need to answer a very important question. What was it about this man that attracted a woman with traits of BPD in the first place? Just like there is a profile for the borderline personality type, there is also a profile for the kind of man that they often choose to partner with. There is a specific reason why these women are drawn to a nice-guy type over other types of personality.

You will find an important clue in the name we commonly use to label men with this kind of personality. This ability holds a special attraction for women with traits of BPD.


They often endanger the lives and well beings of the people who exhibit them. For instance, sexual acting out may consist of frequent, casual, unprotected sexual encounters with complete strangers, which can lead to STDs or unwanted pregnancies. Uncontrolled spending sprees can involve numerous, unnecessary purchases that max out credit cards and pile up debt.

First, you need to be able to recognize the signs that the person you are dating has BPD. Extreme highs and lows are the hallmark of a relationship with someone who has BPD.

You feel like you are going crazy. They turn everything around. They will make you feel like you are the one that is going crazy instead of them. You might become paranoid. You might worry about what you wear and what you say and freak out if someone changes your plans or something unexpected happens that you will have to explain later. If you are a peaceful person, you might find yourself constantly fighting.

You might explode when you get too frustrated. You feel like there is something seriously wrong with you. You feel like you are walking on eggshells. Get a job offer in another state? Agree to babysit for your sister?

Dr. Helen: Walking on Eggshells: Dealing with the Borderline in Your Life

But that would be good for everyone involved, and BPD is the epitome of evil. This article is a decent introduction to BPD women, but it only scratches the surface. Sure there are minor outbursts and warning signs at the outset, I really was ignorant, but also largely ignored a lot of red flags which I now really regret.

Pete Davidson dispels myths about dating with mental illness in a series of posts on his Instagram story. Pete Davidson on Dating With Borderline Personality Disorder – Rolling Stone.

But that would be good for everyone involved, and BPD is the epitome of evil. This article is a decent introduction to BPD women, but it only scratches the surface. Sure there are minor outbursts and warning signs at the outset, I really was ignorant, but also largely ignored a lot of red flags which I now really regret.

Any how to make a long story short, I was blinded by the pussy, sex with a a BPD a really hot BPD is like fucking crack, you become addicted to that shit. On top of that, this girl was so over the top with telling me she loved me, I was her soul mate, she wanted to marry me, etc. The culmination of which ended when she was belligerently blacked out drunk, was acting violently and abusively towards me and then when I went off on her calling her a psycho bitch and hit her with a pillow, she ran into her kitchen and called on her house phone, crazy bitch was threatening to hit her head against the wall to make it look like I hit her.

When the cops showed up they said they saw a red mark on her neck, I should have kept my mouth shut, because I thought I had did nothing wrong and told them what happened, ofcourse they took my words out of context, twisted them around and falsely made me out to be abusive in their police report. That bitch basically ruined my life and on top of that I hate the psycological torment that she put me through, to make things worse I pretty much figured out that she had cheated on me after the break up.

These women are masters at lying and masters at manipulation. These girls have serious daddy issues and in many cases have been molested as children. Not only are they fucking manipulative, but their end game is to totally fucking control you. Once they totally fucking control you, they come to resent you, then they fuck you over, cheat on you with your best friend, or do some other super fucked up shit, just for their own shits and giggles.

Women On The Spectrum of BPD

By Shari Schreiber, M. If you suspect that you have these traits, please leave this website and redirect your attention to alternative web content, which might feel more congruent with your personal views and needs. I understand that you tirelessly tried to assist her, teach her and rescue her during that relationship, and you’re wrestling with letting go of this fixation, weeks or months later. You may even be keeping your perceptions about what really went on in your dynamic under wraps, for fear of hurting her feelings–or risking that she will never speak to you again.

In essence, you’re still walking on eggshells, and putting her needs first. The Borderline Waif seldom exhibits the harsh or volatile traits we’ve come to associate with other BPD types.

But if you’re dating someone with Borderline Personality Disorder, it is probably at once familiar and remarkable; the deep stigma attached to BPD—and specifically having relationships with someone who has BPD—makes stories of intact relationships all too rare.

Relationships per se are difficult. Two individuals come together — attraction, lust, love, personality styles, personal and family histories, attachment, and lifestyles collide — and there you are in the middle of a daring, challenging, and steamy relationship. Remember we all have personality traits, which does not make us personality disordered. Notoriously famous personality disorders discussed in films, courts, and domestic disputes are all part of the dramatic-erratic cluster: The film Fatal Attraction quite an excellent performance by Glenn Close and the recent court case of Jodi Arias come to mind.

What do all the films and print stories have in common?

Traits of Borderline Personality Disorder

For a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder, you must have five out of nine. The first two traits are traits involving emotions; traits three and four involve behavior; traits five and six involve identity; and traits seven, eight, and nine involve relationships. Following is a list of the nine traits characteristic of Borderline Personality Disorder, along with a breakdown of the traits, and a short discussion of each: Quite frequently people with Borderline Personality Disorder have a very hard time with control of their emotions — they may even feel ruled by them.

Shifts in mood lasting only a few hours.

There is varied opinion around borderline personality disorder (BPD) though, as well as misunderstanding, stigma and discrimination – even among professionals.

Access to lived examples via blogs and social media means people are chipping away at stigmas every day. On the other, more chilling hand, a constant feed of experiences means interpretations of illness can be easily warped. Despite what these sites want you to believe, mental health disorders are not pretty, decorative, or glamorous. Having BPD is like living in a bubble floating in a hazy world of detachment.

The central issue is that BPD is based around feelings. BPD is more than your standard fragility. Those were both me. BPD in Pop Culture While there are few apt, direct portrayals of BPD in broad society, representations manage to creep into common consciousness through TV, film, and music, leaving the public, at least subconsciously, more aware of the disorder than they may realize. While these representations are regularly problematic, there are some that seize the essence of BPD and help to communicate its existence, flattering or otherwise.

Borderline personality disorder: blogs and stories

Maria, I came across this site while searching for an answer to the pain that I am feeling. I was completely shocked to find out that the man I love might be a narcissist. I will tell you my story, but please bear with me as it is quite long and very painful for me. Here is my story. Let me start by saying that before I met this man couple years ago I had just purchased a house by myself and had a great job. I was single, independent and happy with many friends and family.

Men who have been the victims of women with borderline personality disorder, what are your stories/experiences? Update Cancel. “Victims of women with borderline personality disorder” (she told me that she has BPD) from a dating website about 6 months ago. We are not close in location, but maybe that was a plus.

By talking openly, our bloggers hope to increase understanding around mental health, break down stereotypes and take the taboo out of something that — like physical health — affects us all. What people often forget is that mental illness may not just affect the recipient, but also the people around them. Even professionals stigmatise personality disorders Tracey, June 8, I have personality and eating disorders , more precisely avoidant, dependant and borderline or emotionally unstable personality disorders and bulimia.

All stigmatised diagnoses even among medical professionals. It feels like BPD is the black sheep of mental health Natasha, April 18, A diagnosis is a terrifying, yet relieving, confirmation. And for many people, such as myself, a diagnosis can be a gateway to another difficult and long path. Employers found it difficult to see past my mental health problems Katherine, April 4, I have had serious mental health problems most of my life but despite this I work and live independently.

Feeling part of society has had the single most positive impact on the state of my mental health. Unfortunately, it is the very thing that stigma and prejudice has the most negative impact on.

Sociopath World: Borderline personality disorder and sociopaths: one big empathy

Borderline Personality Disorder and Memory Are people with Borderline Personality Disorder really just lying when they claim that they don’t remember their own often abusive behavior, or do they, in fact, have an actual memory loss concerning the behavior? Do they seriously expect other people to believe their sometimes hard-to-swallow revisions of events that were witnessed quite differently by others?

There is a vast amount of literature dealing with the above questions, from purely biological research concerning brain function, to theories on traumatic memory loss, to ethical speculations regarding the nature of such distortions of living experience. In addition, memory, such that it is, is faulty at best, and undependable when coming from a live subject. According to Freud, this repressed matter does not entirely disappear, however.

One person posts a story that goes against your whole article and you immediately shut it down, telling them what they’ve said is sentimental bullshit, when in fact, it’s jut another side of the story of dating people with BPD, just like the stories you all have been posting, hers was just positive.

My schooling never touched on this pervasive disorder, yet my understanding of it cumulatively expanded through assisting clients who’d never been able to forge healthy, enduring attachments. Let me be very clear; I have not ‘treated’ Borderline Personality Disorder. Borderlines are not “bad people. In truth, when individuals are helped to resolve their self-worth issues, and connect with their emotions without compulsively analyzing or judging them, personality disorder features can be eliminated.

It’s not ‘rocket science,’ but it definitely requires an unconventional and unique type of assistance, that falls outside the realm of standard or traditional therapies. Resolving Borderline Personality Disorder isn’t a head issue, and there is nothing wrong with a Borderline’s mind. In my view, BPD is a heart issue, which seems to be why psychotherapeutic treatment has for many, remained a disappointing, unrewarding endeavor.

Borderline pathology is never caused by a genetic or biological abnormality, and it cannot be inherited. BPD is solely an environmentally induced ‘nurture’ issue, which is passed along through a diffuse, inadequate maternal connection from each generation to the next. In short, if we’ve never been able to receive nourishing love, warmth and affection within a stable, trusted bond, we are not equipped to love.

Women With Traits of BPD

Five Misconceptions That Keep Men From Letting Go and Moving On A breakup with a woman who engages in behaviors associated with BPD or borderline personality disorder during a romantic relationship may be one of the more painful experiences a man can go through. Many men report spending months and even years recovering from the fallout from this type of relationship.

For men whose romantic partners do not engage in the behavior pattern associated with BPD until after marriage, the going can be even tougher. Because of the difficulty many people have in understanding the true nature of these relationship breakups, many misconceptions about this disorder can arise.

The Borderline Personality Disorder ‘Habit’ I Realized I Had After Watching ‘Supernatural’ “Supernatural” has fast become one of my favorite shows, and the fact that all of the cast openly talk about mental health — especially Jared Padalecki with his own personal struggles — just made me love the show even more.

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The numbers come from the consolidated statement of cash flows accompanying audited financial statements for the fiscal years ended December 31, and December 31, Either way, these are the funds invested by the OFS operators to upgrade or add assets to earn future revenue. They are important because much of the goods and services purchased is highly specialized and supplied by companies that would also be considered to be in the OFS supply chain.

This data from the consolidated statement of cash flows contains no detail about the country in which the funds were spent. Most of these companies have operations outside of Canada and would source some or all of their CAPEX goods and services locally. Much of their capacity expansion has been in the United States. This is not included above.

In the estimates below, the and OFS CAPEX figures have been revised materially downwards to compensate for the many unknowns and estimates associated with the above data, as have the and future estimates.


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